My Mission: To Guide Women Who Don’t Know How to Feel

I grew up learning to keep everything inside.

Startsera didn’t begin because I wanted to teach people how to feel more. It began because I realized I couldn’t feel much at all. I grew up learning to keep everything inside.

Not because I was strong, but because no one around me knew what to do with real emotion. So I stopped trying to understand mine.

I didn’t say “I’m sad.”
I didn’t say “I’m scared.”
I didn’t even say “I’m upset.”
I just went quiet and pushed through.

And that silence followed me into adulthood. I could think clearly, analyze everything, accomplish anything, but when someone asked what was happening inside me, I had nothing to say. Not because I didn’t feel.
But because I didn’t know how to find the feeling.

Most people think emotional pain is loud.

Mine was quiet. It showed up as:

shutting down
going numb
overthinking
pretending I was fine
being the strong one
staying in control
keeping everything private

I wasn’t dramatic. I was disconnected. And one day I realized: “I don’t know myself. And I don’t know how to.” That was the moment Startsera began. Not as a business, as a truth I couldn’t ignore anymore.

I saw how many women were living exactly like this:

Women who can support everyone else but can’t explain what they feel.

Women who don’t cry because they can’t access the emotion, not because they’re “fine.”

Women who grew up without emotional language and learned to cope by staying strong, quiet, capable.

Women who don’t talk about themselves because they don’t know where to begin.

Women who shut down because it was safer than being real.

Women who think something is wrong with them because their feelings don’t show up the way they’re “supposed” to.

emotional numbness to feel safe not real

My mission is to guide.

I guide them to reconnect with the parts of themselves they closed off so long ago.
I guide them to slow down enough to hear what’s actually happening inside.
I guide them to name emotions they’ve never named.
I guide them to soften the inner critic that fills the silence.
I guide them to feel safe in their own body again.

Not perfectly. Not dramatically. Just honestly.

My mission is simple: To help high-functioning, emotionally shut-down women stop abandoning themselves and finally learn how to understand what they feel.

Because you’re not numb.
You’re not cold.
You’re not detached.
You’re not “too logical.”

You’re a woman who was never taught how to stay with herself. And it’s time you learned.

HEY, I’M RAMONA…

... And I write for women who shut down instead of breaking down, women who overthink everything, say nothing, and carry their whole life quietly inside.

I don’t write for the confident part of you. I write for the trembling one.
The overthinking one.
The one who apologizes before they breathe.
The one who’s been “strong” for so long, it became a kind of loneliness.

I don’t write for virality. I write for recognition. For the moment, someone whispers, “I didn’t know anyone else felt this.”

That is the metric I serve.

I hope my words and thoughts connect with you.

MY STORY